'If only I knew she would be so neurotic about hygiene before I married her': Slobby Hubby Takes To Reddit To Complain About His Wife's 'Unreasonable' Cleaning Demands, Gets A Quick Reality Check From Readers

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    Font - Posted by u/amithehubslob 13 hours ago 13 AITA for not keeping up with my wife's cleaning demands?
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    Font - I had a major fight with my wife a few hours ago and I strongly think I'm in the right but she is so angry I almost feel like I'm the one crazy. I'll provide context. I married my wife 3 years ago but we have been together 6. One important thing to note is she's extremely clean.
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    Font - I regret not moving in together until we married because while I knew she was clean I didn't know the full extent. Let this be a lesson to live with your partner before marriage. She is the reason why our house looks like a model home.
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    Font - She hates dishes in the sink while I'm content to let them sit for a couple days. She spends her off days scrubbing bathrooms because in her mind they should be cleaned weekly. She doesn't let me bring my shoes inside and insists I shower immediately when I get home before laying in bed. There are a million more things but hopefully you have an idea.
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    Font - This didn't start hurting our marriage until we had kids. We have a 2 year old and a 1 year old. I'm a SAHD. I left work when our youngest was born and that is when our disagreement on how clean the home needs to be started to get bad. She expects me to do most of the chores now when it used to be primarily her and I wouldn't mind if they were reasonable. She
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    Font - wants the children to have a bath everyday and I think every 1-3 days is fine. She wants all of their toys put away by the end of the day and I think there is no point when it will be a mess again. She wants the dishes done daily. She wants all house bedding washed weekly. She wants me to vacuum weekly. She wants me to mop every 3-4 days since in her logic the kids spend a lot of time playing on the floor. They will not be hurt or sick if I mop every 2 weeks.
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    Font - Because I don't play along with most of her demands she ends up being the one to do most of the housework when she gets home or her rare off days.
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    Font - She works 40-80 hours/week so it is a lot but she does it to herself. I feel I do what is reasonable. This all built up to today. She got home and saw I hadn't yet washed the dishes and there was still grease/food in some of the pans and on the countertop.
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    Font - Also I hadn't yet brought in the trash cans from the previous two days when they were emptied. She flew off the handle calling me lazy and a slob. She said she would like for me to return to work since in her eyes I'm doing a poor job and use the money to hire a weekly housekeeper and a nanny who "wouldn't leave the kids in pjs all day." I got
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    Font - pissed and told her she is crazy and she works herself up over small things and I will not be leaving my kids with a stranger. She packed a bag for herself and our babies and to her mom's house. I'm furious. Am I the asshole?
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    Font - Donkeh101 11 hr. ago Out of all the things listed, bathing the kids made me recoil. I am not the tidiest of persons. All the others I can give a sort of leeway. To certain degree. But not bathing the children??? That would be my priority. YTA OP.
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    Font - Bexclamation Point 10 hr. ago edited 8 min. ago Your standards are too low. Yup. I would say the wife's standards on some cleaning areas are unusually high (not TOO high, just on the high end of what's reasonable), so I disagree with those saying her preferences are totally normal and everyone does it that way. But OP's standards are way too low, to the point that he can't even tell the difference between which things really just need to be done this way and which are areas where his wife
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    Font - Just Me1973 · 12 hr. ago Partassipant [1] YTA. Her cleaning habits are fairly average. You're just a slob.
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    Human body - annaewebb 11 hr. ago Right he would freak out if he lived with me. Toilets are cleaned every day, mopping every two days. Slobs have a hard time living with me
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    Font - firerosearien 9 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [7] I have adhd and many chores I have a really hard time keeping up on. Reading this thread makes me want to deep clean the entire house...maybe I will go and do the dishes in a bit
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    Font - Miriamathome. 12 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] YTA. I thought she was going to turn out to be a crazy person who wanted to clean the tile grout with a toothbrush twice a week and be able to eat off the floors at a moment's notice. Doing dishes daily, cleaning the bathrooms weekly and not wearing shoes in the house are perfectly normal standards. Yours haven't achieved dangerously disgusting, but they are on the slobber, yuckier end of the normal spectrum. I usually think couples with dif

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